1) Reply to this post with your answer to the TwinTuesday QOTW:
Do you have pets and, have they caused any problems/issues since becoming a parent of twins?
This is a subject that I've avoided talking about on my blog, because I still feel a lot of guilt associated with our own "pets after twins" experience. But, what the heck... I think this is one of those topics that, while some might judge harshly, should be talked about, anyway.
Before we even discussed trying to get pregnant, my husband and I acquired quite a few pets in our time together: 2 dogs, 3 cats, a guinea pig, 45 gallon fish tank :-p When it was just the two of us (and all the pets) I had no problem keeping up with what I called my "zookeeping" duties :-p However, to be perfectly honest, after the girls were born, taking care of all those animals, in addition to the twins, became a bit much for me after awhile.
Plus, as I've talked about on my blog before, when the girls were about 18 months old, my stepkids moved in with us. So, we had all these animals... all these kids... in a tiny 3-bedroom apartment :-p
Well, it was a very difficult time indeed... and we ended up having to make some VERY difficult decisions. Some people judged me for it, but I ended up having to find homes for most of the pets. We only kept one of our cats (Patches, who is still with us) because my husband is particularly attached to this cat :-p (And, I figured we could handle just one cat.)
I've since gotten over it... for the most part. The only thing that still makes me tear up (especially when I watch a movie like "Marley and Me") is my dog Spot. He was my first dog... my then-boyfriend (now-husband :-p) and I adopted him from the SPCA shortly after moving in together. He had MANY medical problems, including seizures, skin problems, anxiety. In retrospect, he probably wasn't the best choice for us because, while he was listed as a spaniel-mix at the shelter, we later learned that he was a border collie... not exactly the best apartment dog :-p But, I loved him dearly, even though he made me crazy :-D
Shortly after I started my search for new homes for our pets, Spot's health suddenly deteriorated. He was in a lot of pain and misery... and, while the others were finding homes, I had to make the decision to put him down.
While, I know in my head it was the right decision, to this day I still feel like I should have done more for him... and the timing of it all just seemed to make it worse. It was just one of those times where everything seemed to happen at once...
Again, while I've since gotten over it (for the most part) and life is much better now, my heart still breaks a little whenever I think of that time... and especially of Spot :-(
Our situation was a bit unique, but I do know that many times, people can underestimate how their life will change when they have a baby (and especially two :-p)... if you had pets before twins, did you have any problems/issues that needed to be dealt with, once the babies came home?
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Oh my, you poor thing. It must have been so difficult for you. But you did the right thing that was best for you and your family.
We have a dog and a cat, that we had prior to having the twins. I feel bad for our dear animals as they do not get ANY attention anymore. They have been so good to us, patient with the kids, and what do they get in return? Nothing.
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I am a bad pet mom. I don't even like dogs, but when I was pregnant (with the baby that was stillborn before the twins) I got a dog from the local rescue place. It was a puppy.. my husband was deployed, I had no one to talk me down. She grew into this huge thing, and prefers to be outside in our fenced in backyard. I feel like we don't spend enough time with her, but she's not the friendliest thing (she can be aggressive to strangers). The older kids play with her though, it's just that we can't take her on walks, because of her aggression.
OH! and when I brought her home, our cat promptly moved out and in with our neighbors LOL
I didn't kick him out, he chose to go. He wasn't a fan of the dog from day one.
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When our twins were born, we had four cats (two from my husband and two from me) and two birds (my husband's). It was nuts! We gave away one cat to a good home because he was really wild and chased the birds. The other three cats were old and eventually died of natural causes. Once the birds passed away, we vowed "no more pets" for a very long time! The twins are 6 now, and so far we've kept to our pledge to be pet-free. It's just less complicated!
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Oh that's such a sad post! :( You shouldn't feel guilty at all! You did the best for your pets. It would have been worse to have kept them all!
I've just posted my response to the QOTW:
http://www.mammakerr.com/2010/04/twin-tuesday-twins-pets/?preview=true
Happy Twin Tuesday! Thanks again for the twinspiration.
:)
Annette
www.mammakerr.com
I do have pets. We have two poodles (Mikey and Molli) they're going on 9 years old. I havent had any problems with the dogs vs babies. When I brought my babies home from the hospital Molli new instantly Emily was sick. She would lay on the floor and lick Emilys feet for hours if I would let her. If Emily was crying Molli would be the first to "rescue" her. With all of Emilys medical problems she started having seizures. Molli would sit next to Emily and bark until the seizure was over and then would start licking her. Oddly enough when Emily is upset Mollis licking calms her. Samantha is close to the dogs and the dogs love her but there is a special bond between Emily and Molli...and I love seeing it!
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@Erin: I can totally relate... after the girls came home, the pets were really nothing more than a chore and a source of stress, to me... but, we kept them so long afterward (until that time when the girls were about 18 months old), because I just couldn't bear the thought of giving them up. I just felt like I had taken on the responsibility and should deal with it. But as hard as it was, I think it all did work out for the best... for us and the pets. I know our other dog Rosie, in particular, went from being largely ignored here to the pampered pooch of a lady that wanted company, since her kids were all grown and gone :-) The lady who took her kept in contact with me for awhile, sending me pictures and all... as long as she's still around (she was about 7 when we gave her up and that 4 years ago), Rosie is definitely one spoiled doggie :-p
@Jayme: I totally understand that, too... although, it's funny... my husband and I can be such a bad influence on each other at times. When we were collecting all those pets, we kind of talked each other into getting them :-p
@Susan: Yeah, if it were me, we wouldn't even have Patches, but he is pretty much my husband's familiar :-p Honestly, he's getting up there in age (the cat, not my husband :-p)... I estimate that he's about 13 years old. And, when he does pass away, I know my husband will be VERY upset. So, we'll probably end up getting another pet when that happens... I know my husband loves these "tuxedo cats" like Patches... of course, he also wants a Pug :-p But, now it's really just him that wants pets... and I'm gonna tell him, if you want another one, fine... but you're cleaning up after it :-p (And, I'm never getting that many again, even if we do live on an actual farm :-p) I still love animals... but I've done enough cleaning up after them to last a lifetime :-p
@Annette: Thanks so much! I know I did make the right decision... but, when I was trying to find homes for them all, I used the internet a good bit and I got so many hateful e-mails/responses... people calling me every name in the book for the fact that I wanted to give up the pets... some even suggesting I give up the babies before the pets because they were there first! I know there are a lot of crazy people on the internet (along with the good ones :-D)... but, I really got a taste of that when I took the route of trying to finding new homes for our pets (as opposed to just dropping them off at a shelter, which obviously would have been the easier/quicker route). Which just took an already painful situation and made it a hundred times worse. Again, I have since gotten over it but, it was just a really dark time for me... which might be why I don't even want to get any, anymore... I just never want to have to go through that again.
@Jennifer: Oh, what a beautiful story! Yeah, basically all of our pets stayed as far away from the girls as possible from the day they came home (and Patches still does :-p)... but, I've heard of some pets (especially dogs) doing things like that... so sweet!!
Thanks again for participating everybody!! And the winner of the giveaway is... Susan! :-) I know you don't want pets, and Marley is a messy dog, but at least he stays on the TV :-p
I HAVE TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS EXCEPT I DON'T HAVE TWINS: I AHVE A SON AND A CAT AND A DOG AND THE PETS GAVE EACH OTHER MORE PROBLEMS THEN ANYONE ELSE IN THE HOUSE; HOWEVER, THEY ARE BEST FRIENDS NOW... OUR PETS REALLY JUMPED IN AND BECAME OUTGOING WITH ALL THE FAMILY MEMBERS THOUGH
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